Offending people without trying

Happens to me a lot. Finally I have isolated the reason. It’s my tone of voice. Comes across as sarcastic so that any innocuous comment can be taken in a different non literal way.

I am going to work on this. Could be a life changer because I didn’t know I had this tone of voice really and wondered why people would sometimes inappropriately or unexpectedly laugh at some statement that wasn’t made in jest or become very offended over again, some bland statement. The delivery needs to be controlled.

I offended both my kids yesterday. Maybe someday they will read this and realize “hey, she really didn’t mean to be rude at all” hopefully they know this much sooner but sometimes they get offended and really I can’t blame myself because I go over it, and I’m like “okay, it makes no sense why this person should be offended right now. I put in all kinds of variables but still there is no reason”

And that happens right?? We are all sensitive in some way and that nobody else’s fault usually. So I am not taking all the blame but I’ll do my part to make it more clear when I’m joking and make sure it’s not a sensitive topic first. This feels very unnatural for someone who considers myself as an amateur comedian but I have to do it for the family. Will need to simply make friends who understand me and the humor.

And maybe this will also kind of push me into finally doing open mic. If I can’t joke with the kids, it’s got to come out another way.