Tag Archives: narcissist

So I Continue to Pretend My Life Will Never End

Parenting a child with autism alone while dealing with domestic violence. The results of pouring all your energy into your children and then paying for it with your health, possibly even your life.

Parental Alienation Part I:

My sons father has always been kind of a combative person. He’s always been insecure about himself and generally kind of unhappy. I met him when I was still married but was having some marriage issues. I married young and even though my husband was a good friend to me- we were just too youngContinue reading “Parental Alienation Part I:”

To Keep Fighting The Abuser or To Give Up

A narrative of personal nature that is also unfortunately affecting many women who choose to leave their abusers with whom they share children. I didn’t know abuse could manifest in emotional and psychological manipulation until about a decade ago. I used to think insults, controlling my movements and treating me as a subject or objectContinue reading “To Keep Fighting The Abuser or To Give Up”

The Slow Loss of my Daughter to her Abusive Father

He didn’t want me to have a baby. That’s when it started. He tried to first convince me I was imagining the pregnancy, what purpose that would serve, I don’t know. Then once it was clear, he began to harass and pick at me, hoping I would become so anxious I would have a miscarriage.Continue reading “The Slow Loss of my Daughter to her Abusive Father”

An update on the ongoing, or rather, never stopped, custody battle in which the abuser is successful in removing the child from the safe parent – a message to my daughter “Rose”:

I have written in the past the story of how as the biological mother of my daughter and a survivor of abuse by the man who impregnated me was able to convince family court that he should be primary custodian despite all kinds of evidence of abuse, not just towards me, but towards my olderContinue reading “An update on the ongoing, or rather, never stopped, custody battle in which the abuser is successful in removing the child from the safe parent – a message to my daughter “Rose”:”

Family court will break you and force you to hide what you could have treated

You cannot go in for therapy. You cannot. You cannot admit any personal defects. Against the rules. You must be perfect at all times. No exaggeration here. Feelings are to be kept to oneself always. They are not allowed in family court. They are not allowed amongst parents- period. As long as the government isContinue reading “Family court will break you and force you to hide what you could have treated”

Coparenting with the Narcissist: Part 2- From the Frying Pan Into the Fire

I had only been in a romantic relationship with the narcissist (Guy) for about a year and a half- at the most. But choosing to have a child with him ensured that the abuse would continue for many more years. I didn’t know this when I chose to keep the baby. I was told byContinue reading “Coparenting with the Narcissist: Part 2- From the Frying Pan Into the Fire”

Coparenting with a Narcissist: Part 1

This story is for my daughter, whom I hope will understand. It’s been over seven years since I left my abusive ex boyfriend and I feel like the abuse continues just in a different way and I don’t know how much more I can take. I dated the guy, let’s call him “Guy”, for aContinue reading “Coparenting with a Narcissist: Part 1”